Feeling so very thankful for all that I have and all that I've achieved since one year ago. My girls are my everything. This is the dream. xo
Outtakes :>
Showing posts with label warriors. Show all posts
Showing posts with label warriors. Show all posts
Friday, December 25, 2015
Merry Xmas 2015!
Happy holidays to you and your loved ones!
Feeling so very thankful for all that I have and all that I've achieved since one year ago. My girls are my everything. This is the dream. xo
Outtakes :>
Feeling so very thankful for all that I have and all that I've achieved since one year ago. My girls are my everything. This is the dream. xo
Outtakes :>
Thursday, September 3, 2015
What I Learned From Marissa Mayer's Pregnancy Announcement [MOMLIFE]
Making its way around the media circuit is the announcement that Marissa Mayer, CEO of corporate giant Yahoo, is pregnant. Not only that but she plans to continue working throughout her pregnancy and will 'not [avail] herself of Yahoo’s 16 weeks of paid maternity leave'.
I found this news out first by Bloomberg Businessweek's article, Marissa Mayer Rewrites Rules for CEO Parenting, Again, and something about it rubbed me the wrong way.
Most likely, it's due to the article's suggestive interpretations.
And there's the rub. As a mother, I'm not particularly encouraged nor inspired by her determination or decisions. Instead, at least initially, at first read, I was left feeling inadequate.
To start, Marissa isn't just expecting a baby later this year, she's expecting two— twins— which increases both her pregnancy risks and symptoms that comes with having multiples. Her decision or determination to work throughout her pregnancy is a personal one and NOT one that every mother-to-be can and should make.
Every woman experiences pregnancy different and, to no fault of her own, some have harder times than others. I took a medical leave in my current pregnancy because of extreme morning sickness and I refuse to feel bad about it. It wasn't Marissa's path, it was mine. And it was the best decision for me, my pregnancy, and my family.
Moreover, Marissa is 40 years old. In her announcement, she quells any wonder if she underwent fertility treatment to become pregnant, contributing to her super-exec/supermom superhero image and perpetuating the all-too-common misconception that getting pregnant at that age is perhaps simple and normal, even when holding a high-power/high-paying/high-stress job and child already in tow.
Maybe it was easy for her to get pregnant at 40 and maybe her pregnancy with twins at 40 is a breeze, even with all her responsibilities. If that's really the case, then good for her. She's lucky. Yes, lucky. Because pregnancy, for the most part, really is mostly about luck. But one individual's luck should NOT be defining the path for others, let alone future generations.
What I particularly appreciated about Mark Zuckerberg's announcement about his wife expecting was that it was honest and helped shed light on the difficulties of becoming pregnant, despite how much they wanted it or even how much money (or access to resources) they have. It's not to say every pregnancy announcement by corporate leaders should necessarily be educational, per se, but it's a gift to be shared not a journey to be followed.
Lastly, skipping maternity leave isn't an act of heroism nor is it admirable nor should Marissa's personal decision perpetuate our country's backward practice that doesn't entitle new mothers the opportunity to spend enough time with their newborn without the loss of income.
The majority of new moms didn't make over $59 million in the previous year. They don't have the luxury to build a private nursery right next to their office either, or hire however much help $59 million can buy.
As we look at leaders to learn from, we should be cognizant of what lives/livelihoods we are comparing and the standards/norms/expectations we should and maybe should NOT be setting based upon them.
Call me crazy but I'm unemployed from a layoff, single, and expecting my second child, and yet STILL I consider myself as having it all. Financial unworry, I could always use a little more of but at least I'm living the dream. MY dream. Not Marissa's or anyone else's. xo
I found this news out first by Bloomberg Businessweek's article, Marissa Mayer Rewrites Rules for CEO Parenting, Again, and something about it rubbed me the wrong way.
Most likely, it's due to the article's suggestive interpretations.
'[Her] very public determination to not let motherhood get in the way of running a company could be encouraging to would-be corporate executives.
“She’s setting a new path for younger, smart women coming up behind her,” said Carol Hochman, a former CEO of Danskin and chairman of Women in America. Of course Mayer has the means “to figure out how to make this work.” Her compensation was $59.1 million last year.
Still, others may find inspiration in her treating parenthood as most male executives do.
And there's the rub. As a mother, I'm not particularly encouraged nor inspired by her determination or decisions. Instead, at least initially, at first read, I was left feeling inadequate.
To start, Marissa isn't just expecting a baby later this year, she's expecting two— twins— which increases both her pregnancy risks and symptoms that comes with having multiples. Her decision or determination to work throughout her pregnancy is a personal one and NOT one that every mother-to-be can and should make.
Every woman experiences pregnancy different and, to no fault of her own, some have harder times than others. I took a medical leave in my current pregnancy because of extreme morning sickness and I refuse to feel bad about it. It wasn't Marissa's path, it was mine. And it was the best decision for me, my pregnancy, and my family.
Moreover, Marissa is 40 years old. In her announcement, she quells any wonder if she underwent fertility treatment to become pregnant, contributing to her super-exec/supermom superhero image and perpetuating the all-too-common misconception that getting pregnant at that age is perhaps simple and normal, even when holding a high-power/high-paying/high-stress job and child already in tow.
Maybe it was easy for her to get pregnant at 40 and maybe her pregnancy with twins at 40 is a breeze, even with all her responsibilities. If that's really the case, then good for her. She's lucky. Yes, lucky. Because pregnancy, for the most part, really is mostly about luck. But one individual's luck should NOT be defining the path for others, let alone future generations.
What I particularly appreciated about Mark Zuckerberg's announcement about his wife expecting was that it was honest and helped shed light on the difficulties of becoming pregnant, despite how much they wanted it or even how much money (or access to resources) they have. It's not to say every pregnancy announcement by corporate leaders should necessarily be educational, per se, but it's a gift to be shared not a journey to be followed.
Lastly, skipping maternity leave isn't an act of heroism nor is it admirable nor should Marissa's personal decision perpetuate our country's backward practice that doesn't entitle new mothers the opportunity to spend enough time with their newborn without the loss of income.
The majority of new moms didn't make over $59 million in the previous year. They don't have the luxury to build a private nursery right next to their office either, or hire however much help $59 million can buy.
As we look at leaders to learn from, we should be cognizant of what lives/livelihoods we are comparing and the standards/norms/expectations we should and maybe should NOT be setting based upon them.
Call me crazy but I'm unemployed from a layoff, single, and expecting my second child, and yet STILL I consider myself as having it all. Financial unworry, I could always use a little more of but at least I'm living the dream. MY dream. Not Marissa's or anyone else's. xo
Friday, August 7, 2015
We Are Warriors
Warriors.
When I was pregnant with Nui Nui back in the summer of 2011, the mother for whom I was finishing up tutoring her twin boys wrote:
From then on, I referred to us women of the family as Warriors. And though the reference was not my own, we own it.
We are fighters. We believe in love, happiness, and good health. We fight against illness, tough times, and the hate (or disapproval) of our unconventionalism. We fight for each other and we do it together. As individuals, we are strong but, with our combined strengths, we are even stronger. We are warriors. xo
When I was pregnant with Nui Nui back in the summer of 2011, the mother for whom I was finishing up tutoring her twin boys wrote:
'All the best to you and soon to the third female warrior in the family.'
From then on, I referred to us women of the family as Warriors. And though the reference was not my own, we own it.
We are fighters. We believe in love, happiness, and good health. We fight against illness, tough times, and the hate (or disapproval) of our unconventionalism. We fight for each other and we do it together. As individuals, we are strong but, with our combined strengths, we are even stronger. We are warriors. xo
Wednesday, December 25, 2013
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Monday, August 12, 2013
What Does It Take To Be A Great Dad?
I was reading Daniel Odio's blog— he writes all sorts of cool stuff about tech— and one of his posts was titled, 'What Does It Take To Be a Great Dad?'. Don't you love how, no matter what the topic, parenthood is unavoidably shared? :> More and more, it sometimes seems, for example, Facebook is becoming FamilyBook. It's quite lovely. Parenthood is awesome and we could always use a little more rainbow. Seeing all the brand new faces (literally) and being able to watch them grow up no matter where you (or they) are, social media is a blessing aside from the little blessings themselves :>.
Anyway, in response to Daniel's question: 'Anyone have advice how how to be a great dad?', I responded with this:
Here's a woman who embodies these things and a girl who is lucky to be cared by her :> #warriors
I and Daniel's readers aren't the only ones who have opinions, though. What do YOU think? What makes a dad great? Share below or Tweet/Instagram us, we'd love to hear! :> xoxo
Anyway, in response to Daniel's question: 'Anyone have advice how how to be a great dad?', I responded with this:
Parenthood is the best and will make you into an even greater version of yourself than you could have ever imagined :>
I've never been a dad but as a mom and daughter, I share this:Cheers, to you and your wife! #bestadventureever!
- Be there. Money is important but time spent together is priceless (and you can never get it back).
- Smile often. You are the most influential role model for your kid(s). When you smile, they smile. And isn't that the goal-- for them to be happy? [Rhetorical question]. Yes. ...Cheese! :>
- Love unconditionally. Love is so powerful and can get you/them through nearly anything. Anything.
Here's a woman who embodies these things and a girl who is lucky to be cared by her :> #warriors
I and Daniel's readers aren't the only ones who have opinions, though. What do YOU think? What makes a dad great? Share below or Tweet/Instagram us, we'd love to hear! :> xoxo
Sunday, February 10, 2013
Chinese New Year's Eve Dinner!
Luckily, we spent Chinese New Year's Eve over local italian :>
#warriors
How did you spend your Chinese New Years Eve (...or Saturday evening :>)? Comment below, we'd love to hear! :>
#warriorsHow did you spend your Chinese New Years Eve (...or Saturday evening :>)? Comment below, we'd love to hear! :>
Monday, October 15, 2012
Central Park Roses
Amongst other attractions, Central Park has a garden and gazebo.
These are my lady loves in it.
These are my lady loves in it.
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